First of all, I'm so excited about the book we're starting to read this week. It's called, "the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work," by John M. Gottman, PH.D. We've only gotten through the first 3 chapters, but I really like what I've learned so far. In the introduction, he says,

"This book is for you if you're single and looking to "road test" your relationship before making a permanent commitment. It is also for you if you've already committed and want to bolster and protect what you have. If you and your partner are facing dramatic life changes or challenges, The Seven Principles will help you keep connected." (Gottman, John, M. 2015 the Seven Principle for Making Marriage Work, pg. xvii)

In other words, it's for EVERYONE! I'm excited to learn more about creating a deeper friendship with my husband.

Dr. Gottman talks in the book about a happy couple's "secret weapon" which is to use repair attempts. When I read about these, I had to laugh because it's what my husband and I often do when upset with each other. I didn't know it was a thing, but I definitely know we're ok with each other once one of us do it. When we are upset and walk away, one of us at some point will say or text an apology with something humorous involved/attached. I'm always very relieved when we get to this point because I know things have lightened up and we're alright again.

I love the idea that friendship is where it all began and friendship is what we need to keep alive and well. Dr. Gottman says,

"happy marriages are based on a deep friendship. By this I mean a mutual respect for and enjoyment of each other's company." (Gottman, John, M. 2015 the Seven Principle for Making Marriage Work, pg. 21)

I am glad to get the chance to learn more about the seven principles that will help me heighten the friendship with my husband. One of the nicest things he said to me years ago, was that even if we hadn't been dating he would have wanted to be friends with me because I was a cool girl. I don't want to lose that and am glad for the chance to improve our friendship.